When I stepped out of the movie house, I had to take my time shaking every bit of emotions off. I had to order a hot drink. Had to walk around for a good 18 minutes. I was that affected by the movie. So now we know how good they really did it. It was not just because of how it ended. It was because I had those moments. I knew exactly how she felt. It happened to me before. Then I allowed it to happen again. The movie was like a big slap on my face. It was such a huge slap, I felt my face growing numb and really, really hot.
It’s a “love” story that happened in three meetings, but scattered within a span of six years.
It’s not the type of love story I would want for myself. But I think I personally did worse.
The First Time
The first night they meet was one night of getting to know each other, getting drunk, dancing the night away, talking about everything they want to talk about. It seemed that one night summarised all the topics they could talk about in a lifetime. And well…
It showed that she was checking him out on Facebook. So this is a love story of the modern age. She said they didn’t want them to be “friends” on Facebook. What she was really telling him was that “Let’s not stay as just contacts. Let’s not do the “modern version” of things. Let’s take it old school.” I personally thought she was adding flavour to their romance but he didn’t seem to have a clue what was happening between them. And he was a medical student!
And then they kiss. The supposedly “perfect” moment.
The Second Time
So he didn’t contact her on Facebook or any other social media platform. Four years later, they meet again for the second time. He asked her if they can finally be friends. She’s playing coy. He goes to check out her art exhibit. He finds him in everything there. So this time, he finally got the hint after a big bold art of the shirt he was wearing the night they first saw & spent time with each other was the highlight of her art exhibit.
She has learned on earlier that day he’s engaged. She gave in to him anyway. The morning after they made love, they were glowing over a cup of coffee. You can see love in their eyes. The moment seemed so magical until his phone rang. His fiancé was calling. She said she was willing to let go. He left her there with nothing but a kiss on the head.
At this point of course, I want to march to the movie screen and grab the guy by the neck, punch him in the face and kick him in the balls. Four years later, you see how she longed so much for you and waited all this time for you to realise how much she loves you, because you didn’t have the sense to pursue her in every possible way, now you leave her just like that after having sex with her, after she gave you her all in all???!!!
The Third Time
After two years, he sends her a photo, behind him a landmark of the place where he is. Where else? The same place where she is now, of course. Can you guess how he sent it to her? Yes, through Facebook. So they were contacts now. But it took him two years to play the heart of the other girl, his fiancé, and then break it. His decision-making was so bad, it took him all that time to be sure on how to deal with his situation and figure out what he really felt for Celeste.
Right there and then she decides she’s not going to give up the man she’s with now. He took good care of her, loves her dearly. Jesse, in the mean time, seemed to finally have had the courage to fight for her. After all, he gave up everything and travelled abroad just for her.
So now lessons.
Romance can only be considered incredibly and legitimately beautiful if it’s between two people who truly love each other. Those who want to be romantic without truly loving each other are just acting it out. Sooner and not later, romance fades away. They will be two people fooling themselves that romance is a prerequisite of true love. I understand now that romance is, in fact, just one of the many fruits of true love. Well, Webster has a different take on it. So maybe we should just listen to him.
Also I learned, and let me say that this lesson is based on my personal experience not just in the movie, men of this century have really been stuck in the “boy” phase. They have become a bunch of kids who haven’t a clue what’s happening with their lives. Those who didn’t know how to identify the grand, beautiful, even devastating moments they have in front of them. Take Trump for example. He doesn’t have a clue. Oh, but he’s old. So that was a bad example.
No wonder the clinical psychologist, Jordan Peterson, is so well-known now. He is the only one who have the guts to tell the men of today to “grow up.” And the only one it seems to be able to detail how to do that. The rest of the oldies of this generation, it looks to me, didn’t know how to train and teach these young men.
As for my personal love stories, well, you’ll be able to read about them in the near future.