How The Rain Falls

Photo from weknowyourdreams.com

When it rains, we’d usually hurry to run up the second floor of the house and make sure to close the windows. But by now, my brother will tell you that he’s learned to check the rain first before talking to me about closing windows. I’d always ask him, “How’s the rain falling?” He knows I love the wind that comes with the rain too. If there’s not much wind, the rain typically falls vertically to the earth. But with strong winds, the rain falls sideways. The wind carries the droplets to whichever direction the wind wants it. I’ve also read somewhere that rain falls sideways sometimes due to the earth’s orbit. I found that very interesting. I tried to imagine it. So the rain goes sideways as it falls, and the as the earth moves, it follows me while I remain standing still. You gotta love gravity. But you know, I’m not entirely sure that’s true. Thought of putting it here for more words. 😂

This pandemic makes us all feel some kind of way. The world is “wilding” in every possible way. I’m writing this to ask us to keep our emotions in check. How are you with your anger? How are you with your loving? How are you with your lonely? How are you with your frustrations?

I find it helpful that we are feeling the same thing at some degree & on so many levels during this time. We all used to think nobody truly understands us. We can’t say that anymore. It’s like this pandemic happened to show us we really aren’t far apart. It’s uniting us all in some way — every tribe & tongue, wherever you are in the world. Suddenly, we are all concerned with each other. We see what happened to Italy, and how they handled their situation, and we admired them. We want to be as resilient as them. We suddenly know what’s most important in life.

In this virus-infected world, the rain is like our emotions. Sometimes it falls down. Sometimes it can go sideways. I love that this pandemic is teaching us that we don’t always need to “shut the windows” when there’s rain. We don’t need to shut people’s emotions. We can do better. We can observe how the rain falls, and deal with it accordingly.

I love that God never shuts my emotions. He’s not like those “older generation” of people who tell you to just “shut up.” He knows every emotion. He created them. He’s not afraid or intimidated with any emotions we bring to Him. He can handle them. I have a feeling, He’s teaching us how to handle our emotions too. I think God wants us to understand that there is more to our emotions. It’s exciting that we all get to find that out together.

Bearing In Mind

From my previous blog, the Questionnaire, I had some questions that didn’t seem to make a lot of sense. I chose those questions because I am a listener more than I am a talker. 

I like listening to people. Even when I was a young girl, I’ve always been sensitive of my playmates’ reactions. My cousins and I grew up together and because I love them and I happen to be the eldest in our age group, I am usually very careful not to make them cry. But I am not the kindest cousin, I tell you. Now, that’s for another blog. 

When I asked my new teammates in the office the questions from my previous blog, it was really for a combination of factors: I wanted to know them – their personality – based on how they answer my questions; I was curious to find out if there’s anyone there who think the way I do – and so to see how their minds work; and to discover who is the most intelligent of them all emotionally.

I say “most intelligent emotionally” because while I get angry on Twitter, I am not really in the habit of associating myself with people who have a lot of feelings. The main thing that I look for in a man, is whether he is too emotional or not. That is why I am incredibly grateful I never had someone like that.

I truly believe that this world needs more “emotionally intelligent beings.” Those easily carried away with their emotions seemed to me, won’t do this world any good and therefore needs to be disposed of. Hahaha! Kidding. Sorry. But seriously, think about it. 

Being an emotionally intelligent person does not mean you don’t experience any emotion. It just means that one is aware of his/her own feelings and able to identify where an emotion comes from. And because one is able to identify one’s feelings, then you are able to respond properly and better in any given situation.

Recently, I sent a really bad email to a person who has become very dear to me. It was a bad email because I said the most hurtful words, I think. I was so angry. So, I’m the one to talk about being emotionally intelligent. I am sharing this to prove that being emotionally intelligent does not mean you don’t make mistakes or that you will be a perfect human being.

When I sent that email, I kept thinking about how the other person would feel. But alas, I was too weak against my pain & frustrations. I sent the email more than  24 hours later. 

Bearing in mind – being mindful – that we all need to look after the feelings of others, in my opinion is one of the things the world needs at this day and age. 

Practice mindfulness.