For the second part of this blog, let’s take a good look at three very special, beautiful, strong, and if you look closely, they are what we can label as, ‘extremely dependent on God’ kind of women. Let’s see what their lives have to say about waiting and who it is really that single women should be waiting for.
Let’s begin with Queen Esther.
Her story was written around 470 years before Christ and one that has captured the hearts of many, many readers. If you open your Bible, you should see the book of Esther in the Old Testament section, after the book of Nehemiah, before the book of Job. It’s a short story so it’s fairly easy to read. But let me share to you some key points about her story. First, the Bible was very clear about her description: She was the most beautiful woman in all the land. But she was called to be more than that. Second, she knew about it. She knew she was made to be more than just beautiful. When her cousin Mordecai told her about the plot to extinguish her people, and when he reminded her that ‘perhaps she was made queen for such a time,’ she knew exactly what to do and how to respond to the call.
The third point I noticed in her story, she waited patiently. How? She prayed, fasted and waited for God’s perfect timing. She had dined with the king twice before presenting her request. Can you imagine the kind of prayer she must be doing in between the banquets with the king? From the very moment she showed herself to the king, she was told her requests would be granted even half the kingdom. But she waited not for the king, not for the man, but for God’s perfect timing. She waited and because of that, she saved her people. So now, her story’s one of the most celebrated stories in Jewish history.
Now, let’s talk about Ruth.
She is a Moabitess. She came from a pagan background but got to know God through her mother-in-law and became a living testimony for Him. It’s interesting that this woman stayed true, humble and obedient even if she didn’t have to. She went far above and beyond what was expected of her. She could get any other man but decided to wait for God’s perfect will for her. How? From the time she accepted God, she had it in her heart to follow Him faithfully through the life of her mother-in-law by caring for her and listening, following carefully her instructions. And also that waiting meant toiling under the sun. When she found her man, she still waited patiently for the Lord to complete the work for them both.
God so loved her that He continued to honor her and Boaz through her descendants — ‘King David and, hundreds of years later, Jesus Christ.’
And finally, let’s revisit the sinful woman, Mary and the story of the alabaster jar. (Matthew 26:6-13, Mark 14:3-9, Luke 7:36-50, John 12:3-7)
In the gospels, they only mentioned what she did – poured the expensive perfume while crying, kissed Jesus’ feet and wiped it with her hair, how the people around her reacted, and how Jesus responded. She never uttered a word. She poured out her whole heart to Jesus and people didn’t appreciate it. What was her response in all their disgust? She kept silent and waited for the Lord Jesus. And we know how He responded to all of them.
I tell you the truth, wherever the Good News is preached throughout the world, this woman’s deed will be remembered and discussed. – Mark 14:9 (NLT)
What does it mean to really wait? In these three stories, we see that it meant to humble yourself before God. It means to keep praying, to fast, and take the matter up to God. It means to obey what God tells you to do. To remain silent and let God do the talking.
These are three beautiful women who had every opportunity to choose to use their beauty to win over a king’s favor but didn’t; who could’ve used all sorts of drama to get the provision they needed but decided not to and use a good argument to get the attention of a man but never did.
Who is it really that they waited for? They waited on the Lord.
If you’re a single lady like me, my advice is not to wait for the right guy to come along. Be the woman God wants you to be and learn how to wait on Him. Because, well, He will be the One to bring you to THE man.
Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and brought her to the man. – Genesis 2:22
This is a great lesson for me. I hope we all learn from this.